How To Deal with the Unexpected Loss of a Pet?

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I recently had to put my dog down when he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He was only 6 years old and while he had been inexplicably sick for some time, it was not that bad so I thought he was okay. But, it turns out he was just suffering in silence, like dogs often do. I am so sad and miss him so much. How do you deal with loss of a pet when they go way too soon and so unexpectedly? Anyone else been through anything like this and have any thoughts of how to help cope?

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Kimberly Alt (Admin)
The team at Canine Journal is sorry to hear about any dog crossing the rainbow bridge. We thank you for opening up and sharing your stories with our community and please know, each and every one of you are in our thoughts. Our article “How To Deal With The Death Of Your Dog” may be a helpful resource for you to read during this time of grief. Thank you again for sharing with us and please know we are thinking of you.
Carla
Recently had to put down our Daisy 12 years old. She showed no signs. It happened so fast one day she was good. I notice that she was bloated called the vet brought her down thought maybe she was constipated had no idea that she had lung cancer kidneys and liver were shutting down. Just don’t understand we took her every year for physicals brought to vet every time she needed. It’s been a month I still don’t understand . Why it wasn’t caught sooner . She was just at the vet in April for her annual. She was a Boston terrier she loved her frisbee. Miss her and love her so much.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss, Carla.
Chloe
So sorry for your loss! I just had to put my 13 1/2 year old dog to sleep on dec 9 I’m just devasted!! She was just running and playing with my other dogs the day before. She woke up Sunday very lethargic and her gums were white. So we took her to emergency vet and he said her spleen ruptured and he saw cancer on her liver and she was having trouble breathing I love her and miss her so much but her pain is gone now and she’s in her new body and I believe I will see her again someday!! She was with me 24/7 cause I work at home. She was a sweet heart and she’s greatly missed
Ed Rico
Chloe, so sorry. Our 13 year old suddenly collapsed on Dec 18, 2018. She had just been chasing rabbits. We rushed her to the ER, they determined her spleen had ruptured, she was bleeding internally, most likely it was a tumor/cancer. She had a ultrasound in August of 2017 which didn’t show anything. We were devastated. We knew at 13 time was limited but for it to happen so fast was shocking. Her and her 13 year old sister go to work with me everyday, they are our children. Christmas this year was not fun. The week before we took them to have their yearly picture with Santa and we had their gifts wrapped. We are acting as normal as we can for her sister but we miss her so much.
Elise
I am so sorry to hear this… Our Jazzy passed away May 30, 2019 leaving behind her sister of 11 years… I am trying to keep our routine as normal as possible. Has your baby been doing ok with her sisters passing?
I understand how much your heart hurts… I do… and I’m hugging you so tight…
Alina
Chloe, I’m truly sorry. I also work from home a good bit and my girl was always right beside me! I’m having a very hard time without her. She just passed away Sunday very unexpectedly. I’m so heartbroken.
Elise
I am truly sorry… that’s how our Jazzy was… fine one day and over the course of a couple days, went down hill and she passed away… it’s devastating and I feel your hurt heart… Jazmine pass on May 30, 2019 and she was 12 years old…
Ruth Attarian
We had to put down our darling Woody, our 11-year old rescue dog, unexpectedly. The lyrics of “One More Day” (by Diamond Rio) linger in my mind. What WOULDN’T I give for one more day with him. He had problems with breathing, no appetite, rapid breaths and heartbeat, a huge lump that came out of nowhere on his head. He looked like he was wasting away before my eyes. So one fine day I left for work and just KNEW he needed to get to the Veterinary Hospital ER. When I got home, I took him in. The xrays told the story that Woody was loaded with cancer in his lungs, or that it was possibly a fungal infection that had a harsh chemotherapy remedy. The vet recommended that we let him go. I called my boyfriend Terry, an ex-Marine and combat veteran. He came to the veterinary hospital right away. When they told him what we were facing, I saw the tears start to roll, matching my own. So here we were, dealing with rough choices between a lot of suffering, and saying goodbye immediately. We chose to euthanize Woody, but it haunts me now and will for the rest of my life. Could something have been done, could something have been wrong. Was there a straw’s breadth of hope that something could have saved him. I will never know, but we will always have the scars in our hearts from this sad, sad, day.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry, Ruth. You are in my thoughts.
Tom
Just put our girl down. She was a 10 year old catahoula beagle mix. She was our first child. She had seen us through many tough times, including the loss of a child. She seemed fine but just didn’t want to eat. After being at the vet, she developed serious internal bleeding. Wishing 24 hours, we had to put her down despite our best effort. She was our first and only dog. Being home in the quiet house is devastating. It’s hard to think how I can go about my normal life. I see her everywhere…
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss, you are in my thoughts.
Brian
I lost my best friend today. She had a malignant tumor on her heart and the sack around her heart became compressed with fluid. I am so lonely without her. She was 10. I work from home too I will be lonely without her. My beautiful Golden Daisy
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Kim mason
My dog drowned in my pool. I feel so quilty. He surely hates me
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry this happened. You are in my thoughts.
Devestated
I went to get my dog to trim him this afternoon i thought he was sleep so i tried waking him multiple times but he was gone and i am so devestated. He was 12 years old. I just keep thinking about he was just barking and running so how did he die.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. He may have died from old age but that is just a guess since he was 12-years-old. Please know you are in my thoughts.
Mike
My heart is broken. My beautiful Maltese Phoebe has gone to doggie heaven. She was only 10 years old. The last few months she started having trouble with her back legs and was falling down. The past few weeks she was only able to crawl and couldn’t control her bowel movements. Last Friday she was sitting on the grass in our front yard looking at me and I could hear her begging me to help her. I will never forget that moment when knew I had to put her to sleep. She has a brother Teddy that is so sad. He was her protector. I wish I could know what he is thinking and if he knows she is not coming back
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Allison Whipple
We just had to put down my dog Sammy he was a Doxhen mixed with an Aussie and well he’s been in so much pain plus he’s been so disoriented and his bowels have lost control plus we gave a steak bone and he gnaws on that steak bone plus he cries when he chews on his steak bone and well he barks when he gets stuck and it was just so painful for us to see him in pain plus he’s been with us for 16 years and he’s been with us through 9 different moves and well we just had to put him down yesterday and it was so sad and hard for us to put him down plus when i put him into the Vets arms he smiled cause he knew what was going on and we left the Vets office crying well now i have his dog tag on my pentatonix and mermaid charm necklace so now i have his name and memories with me and i know that Sammy is in Dog Heaven.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss, Allison.
Natalie Moreno
My baby named Cat (3yrs) was hit by a car when she went after another dog. She was killed instantly. I didn’t get to said bye to her or how much I loved her. I miss her.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Karen Revis
My dog Michael, 2 1/2 also hit by a car Nov. 18, 2017. I still cry. He was hust a 7 lb. Chihuahua and my love. Way to young. I picked him up from the road but he was …… lets just say gone. I will always grieve for my sweet little Michael.
Jodi
My husband and I had to put our 9 year old female yellow lab down a few days ago – a day before Easter. She was herself all day acting just fine. We put her in her kennel around 6:00 p.m./6:30 p.m. to eat dinner with my parents who had come to visit and when I went to her kennel around 7 p.m. to let her out she just looked at me and wouldn’t move. She couldn’t move. I thought she was maybe overheating due to the way she was breathing but her tongue wasn’t hanging out. But I knew something was terribly wrong. My husband had pulled out the mat with her on it that we had in the kennel and she still wouldn’t stand. We laid her on our hardwood floor and called the emergency vet # who told us to take her outside to see if that would help. It didn’t help. She couldn’t walk not even stand by herself. Took her to the vet that night had to wait another 20 min. for the vet to get there and my husband had to carry her in she couldn’t walk. They did an x-ray and told us a mass on her spleen had ruptured and blood was filling up inside her 🙁 They told us to come back to the room where she was at and her mouth was pale and her tongue was white and curled and her paws were white. She was still awake and wagged her tail when she heard us but couldn’t move. We were devastated. They said surgery was an option however they didn’t think she could make it thru surgery with how much she had bled already internally. We had the difficult decision at that point to put her down and waited until we had time to say goodbye to her and had her relaxed and we knew she was when she did her sigh that she normally did before she went to sleep. I live with so much regret and guilt right now that we should have done more to catch this sooner. We never had kids so she was our “kid” and now our house is empty. We are so sad and depressed. We miss her so much. We have had so many people reach out to us and offer their sympathy and comfort but as much as we appreciate it it doesn’t bring her back. She had lumps on her body when we petted her and the vet had just seen her a month ago and didn’t do any tests or xrays. I’m so mad that I didn’t push for more tests. Maybe my beautiful dog could have been saved. I’m filled with so much guilt.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you were able to be with your beautiful dog as she passed. You are all in my thoughts.
rebekah goff
Two nights ago my 4.5 year old healthy, playful, cuddly little boxer boy Goose yelped out and collapsed and died in my arms within a matter of minutes. I tried to do CPR. He was gone. I was and am in so much shock, I never in a million years expected this. My heart hurts more than I could’ve ever known it would. I want him back so badly. I feel guilt, I feel anger, i feel so much pain and sadness. My husband, our other dog, and I are all at a loss. None of us know where to go from here. I appreciate any advice from others who have dealt with the loss of a special animal.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing with us.
Elle
rebekah goff, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my 13.5 year furbaby suddenly. I was in bed and he was next to me sleeping. He got up and moved to the edge of the bed and laid down. Within a minute he wanted to get off the bed so I got up and helped him get off. He went into the kitchen then came over to my side of the bed. I told him to get back on the bed and he walked away. After about a minute I went looking for him and he was sprawled on a small rug in a corner. I picked him up and he was limp his eyes were glazed and his tongue was turning white. I started mouth to snout and chest compressions. He moved a little and I could tell he was trying to come back to me. I kept saying, please don’t leave me and he moved again. I picked him up and put him in my car and drove to the Animal Emergency room but he was already gone.It was just so sudden and traumatic for me. I actually felt like I was dying myself. I really don’t know how I got through this. He was my baby and losing him was traumatic. It has been 10 months that he is gone and I still cry for him. I feel an emptiness in my heart but getting a little better as time goes by.
Sherry Best
I know just how you feel, I took my 11 year old pitty girl to the vet for a cough she had, vet said her heart sounded great, gave me some meds for her cough and we go home, she gets out of the car, goes to walk in the house and has a massive heart attack and dies, it was so fast, I remember hearing myself screaming no, please no,
I have her brother so I let him see before we took her to this big beautiful ranch under a tree and buried her, that was on 22719, I still cry, I miss her everyday, we would wake up every morning and I would say good morning to her and she would smile at me, in 2013 her and her brother both told me I was having a heart attack and I called 911, she saved me and I couldn’t save her, it’s killing me
Natalia
My beloved little Nyxie pqassed awah about 4 hours ago. She suffered from tummy problems since some time but all was pretty stable recently and she was happy. Even yesterday morning we went on a walk and she barked at strangers as she always did. In the day she didn’t eat and I thought it would pass. Like it always has. She would always get better. I didn’t go to the vet because I thought she would get better. We went to sleep and I woke up at about 4am to her having spasms – at first I thought it was hiccups. I took her in my arms and i realised her tiny little body was paralyzed. She wouldn’t move. Then she cried so so much but I still thought she wouldn’t be ok. I took her to the ER vet straight away only to hear him say that her heart wasn’t beating anymore.i can’t believe it happened. I have just been crying since and I can’t stop. Then it gets better and again it hits me – the way she loved me, the way she was always happy to see me back from work, how we would chill and sleep, she always slept in bed with me and her warm energy next to me was like a part of me. Always finding the cosiest and warmest little cuddly place. I can’t believe she is gone, just like that. I’m so sad. I do feel for all the people who commented here – it is the saddest thing ever to lose such a close and loving friend. Love
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Dave
This past Saturday I had to put down my 8 year old mini dachshund. Last Thursday night she seemed ok and when we came back into the house after I had taken them outside at 9:30 p.m. before going to bed, she hopped up on the first of two stairs to get into the house, slipped and fell back on the sidewalk. I picked her up and put her in the house, but then she could not make it up the ramp to get into bed, so I lifted her up. She always slept under the bedspread, going all the way to the bottom and sleeping in the far corner. I awoke Friday morning to her screaming and crying. I got a towel and managed to pick her up and took her to the emergency vet, and they gave her some pain meds and gave some to me to take home and told me to keep her calm for the next four to six weeks. I told them that I had a crate and they suggested that I keep her in it so that she would not try to run or jump. We got back home around 7:00 a.m. and I gave her meds and put her in the crate, which I have many blankets in the bottom of it. Every time she tried to move she would cry and yelp and by 5:30 p.m. I took her back to the emergency vet. They said she really needed a back operation and the cost of that was around $10,000.00 which I could not afford. They gave me a third med and said if I kept her still for six to eight weeks that she might get somewhat better medically. Sitting at home on Friday I had made an appointment with my vet for the next day at 2:30 p.m. and when I took her to the vet told me that she had no feelings in her rear feet or legs, and that the meds were doing a pretty good job of taking care of most of the pain, but said that even if someday she got better that she probably would never have full use of her hind legs. I asked the vet if she were her dog what would she do, and she said knowing what my dog would have to go through during the next month or so and the pain she would be in she would put her down. I though about it for twenty minutes and decided to do it.

I know that I did the right thing, but mentally I keep telling myself that maybe I should have brought her home and seen if she would have gotten better, which I know that she probably would not have. It’s been three days now, I still cry and miss the little things like her laying on my lap while I watch TV, or her barking because it was dinner time and her following me out to the yard. I think what hit me so hard this time was in the past if I had to put a dog down, I paid the fee and walked out the door. This time I stayed, petting her and letting her know that it would be ok while the vet injected the necessary different solutions to put her to sleep. After she was gone I sat there for ten minutes just petting her and telling her how sorry I was. I’m so lonely but I won’t be getting another dog as with the illness that I have I’m only going to be here a couple more years then I can go see my wife and all the animals that I’ve had in my life. I hope that this hole in my heart heals soon so that I’m not hurting so much.

Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I cannot express my sorrows enough. Your story has brought me to tears. I am so sorry for you and your sweet dog you had to say goodbye to. I can’t imagine the hurt you are feeling. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I hope you find comfort in the happy memories you had with her. Please know you are in my thoughts.
Mae
Had to put down my 13.5yr old puppy on Sunday. All of a sudden she just couldn’t walk and was panting and trembling. Rushed her to the emergency vet. Found out that she had tumors on her spleen and liver. One of those tumors had ruptured and she was bleeding internally and there was no choice but to put her to sleep. It was the saddest and most traumatic day of my life. Everything reminds me of her. It is especially difficult being in the house without her. She was always by my side. Feeling very lonely and depressed. She was not just my pet, she was my best friend. I’m lost without her.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss, Mae. You are in my thoughts.
Mel
So sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel, little over a month ago I lost my 13.5 yr old fur baby doggy, she became really sick and I found out she had diabetes and pancreatitis, she had shown no signs and had always been healthy, within a wk of finding out she passed. I am still devastated, lost and depressed. I miss her everyday. She went with me everywhere. She to was my bestfriend and it’s just not the same without her.
Taylor Braunstein
We just lost our precious Oliver tonight to mouth cancer, he couldn’t even open his mouth to drink or eat even though he kept trying to. We thought we had at least a month left with him but he never really recovered from the anesthesia from his CAT scan the day before and we knew it wasn’t the anesthesia that was bothering him it was the cancer. I am a senior in college now but we have had him since I was in elementary school (he was almost 11) and I don’t know Home without him and it just feels so awful. I don’t know what to do with myself and home doesn’t feel like home anymore. I feel like I can’t keep food down and I know he’s in a better place now but I just miss him with all of my heart and almost feel like I thought he would never go because he had been fighting this for so long. I am absolutely beside myself and almost feel guilty for continuing my daily life. Anyone have any suggestions on how to move through this?
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
Loss is so painful. Your number one priority right now is to take care of yourself. Talk to family and friends about how you’re feeling. Decide how you want to grieve the loss. Do you want to eat a tub of ice cream and cry in bed? Do it. Do you want to stay busy with loved ones? Do it. It’s all about balance. Allow yourself time to cry but make sure you are still getting fresh air and spending time with those you love. It’s amazing what a walk can do to boost your mood. Just take each day as it comes and focus on the good memories you have with your sweet Oliver. I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Lei
On Sunday, our beloved Marley was put to sleep. He was 12 years old, miniature poodle. It was very quick and sudden. Up until the days before, he had been his normal mischievous self. On Wednesday night he jumped off my bed (it is quite high), he has had back issues before when he was a little younger and displayed the same behaviour (when he was sore previously) through the day on Thursday. By night he was fine. He must have jumped up on to my bed on Thursday night and then off again in the morning when the alarm went off. I tried to lift him down but he could have this stubbornness and didn’t allow. I also have pet steps which my other dog uses but not not Marley! On Friday he was sore again. He was still walking about, his back a little arched but no squealing or grimacing when we massaged him. He was still eating and drinking, his stools were soft but not runny or diahorrea. He had a couple of little bits of our burger at tea time. No issues through the night but in the morning (Saturday) there was vomit on the kitchen floor – a milky colour. Marley was still walking about with an arched back. I lifted him outside to do the toilet and back in so he wasn’t climbing the stairs. He came into the kitchen to get his bit of butter (my other dog is on medication and we put it in a little butter to coat it) and then went back to his bed. I called home about 10.30am and my mum thought he wasn’t right. I came home for my lunch at 1.45pm and agreed with her. He was pleased to see me, his tail wagging but he stayed in his bed. He moved from the bed in the kitchen to the living room then to the hall and back to the kitchen. I tried to give him some food but he would not eat (butter, cheese, chicken). He had a drink of water but after a few minutes was sick (clear, all the water back up). He was a little unsettled, panting at times, making noises. I believed the vet to be closed and felt bad as we could not afford ooh vet service but upon checking saw they were open and took him up immediately. We arrived @ 2.30pm. The vet wanted to run full blood work but accepted I could not afford it. She believed he had pancreatitis so tested for that and also dehydration. She gave him an injection to stop him vomiting, another for pain relief and one for antibiotic. After @ 30min or so, felt like forever, she confirmed that there was an issue with his pancreas, the test had come back positive but that he was not dehydrated. Marley was lying in his bed on the table, not liking the heatpad she gave him so moving from that until we took it out rom under him. The pain relief did not seem to be helping as he was no calmer. He would look at us and wag his tail every now and then. The vet advised he be kept in, that the next 24-48 hrs were crucial and best he could be kept with IV. We said our goodbyes – that was the sat we saw of him. Naively, when we hadn’t heard by early morning, I assumed no news was good news – then I got the call @ 11am, that he had not had a good night, the pain relief was not easing him, they had injected it into his veins but no difference. He had been vomiting blood. We were advised to let him go – that we could come to see him but she wouldn’t advise it, I agreed – I want to remember him how he was. The vet believed he could have had a mass on his pancreas. I am finding it difficult to move on and keep blaming myself – has he been in pain and we haven’t noticed? Why did I let him come upstairs to my bed? Did jumping off the bed cause this? Did the burger or the butter, (that he has had often) cause this? He did have a little people food everyday, for the last 12 years – there was none of the symptoms apart from an arched back prior to Thursday and even then he was fine by nighttime. He wasn’t underweight or overweight, he wasn’t vomiting a strange colour or had diahorrea. He wasn’t in any pain when rubbed, groomed. He loved lying on his back and side, having his belly rubbed. He loved his food, especially Pedigree Milky Bones, he loved his toy balls. He was so full of fun although not like a puppy (age appropriate, also liked to sleep!). Now I just keep thinking did we miss something or was it our fault and I can’t get past it. He would sometimes growl when we lifted him (he wanted up but wouldn’t jump up but would growl if we lifted him… was he in pain? We just thought it was stubbornness). He had been licking his paws a lot. For the past year or so he had been obsessed with his toy balls and they were almost like his babies, if it rolled away from him he would immediately jump down and pick it up as if scolding it. Strange behaviours but we thought that was just him. Having spent the last few nights now searching google for answers, I wonder if this was distress and we missed it? If he had acute pancreatitis, the noticeable symptoms happened suddenly within a few hours and the treatment didn’t work. If he had a mass (cancerous?), again no visible symptoms. I am just so heartbroken that I can’t get to sleep at night so hoping that writing this will help me in some way.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Mel
So sorry for your loss. I just went through the same loss with my toy poodle a month ago and I am still depressed, grieving, and feeling so much guilt and left with so many what if’s and wondering did I miss something, did the vet miss something, we took her for regular check ups. My Zoey was 13.5 yrs old and was just as spunky as could be (considering her age) and out of the blue she became sick we took her to vet and they told us she had diabetes and pancreatitis and within a wk she passed. I am still so devastated.
Perri
Today I lost my previous girl Mollie. She lost her battle with cancer after two years. It’s so heartbarking especially for my family and my other dog who idolises her. Towards the end she was in pain and I know it wasn’t fair for her to carry on. It was her time to go and we have known this was coming a while back. The fact we to to keep her for one last Christmas was truly special. I’ve had her for 13 years since I was 7 I remember when I walked into the kitchen to find a tiny rescue pup shaking underneath the table and my dad lying on the floor comforting her. I’ve been at university for the past few years so only got to see her every few months, it’s just hard for my parents and my little sister who had to make the most difficult decision of their lives today. She was a German shepherd who absolutely adored humans. Every time she saw someone she would get all excited and wag her tail she truly was the sweetest, most kind hearted, friendly, harmless and curly dog that ever was. Until the end she tried her best to put her absolute all into every walk and even until the end she loved playing with her tennis ball and would always bark for extra treats. (She was the boss of the house for sure she would always get her own way). She was so clever she could always sense your pain and I would just hate to think what she experienced in her final moments. I pray she is at peace now and she is no longer suffering. I will love her forever and ever. I know she’s crossed the rainbow bridge and forever she will play.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss, Perri.
Nathan Estrada
I lost my Ollie today he was my life he was the second English bulldog I’ve ever owned I lost him today on my way to the ER he just couldn’t hold on it started early morning with panting, drooling and a blank stare it then progressed to vomiting and it was hard for him to breath me and my family are so lost at this point my neighbor thinks he got a flipped stomach and passed but I don’t care I just want him back it’s going to be tough for a long time
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss, Nathan. You are in my thoughts.
Danny Murray
I put my 3 yr old German Shepherd, Micah, down today. He suffered from apparent severe allergies. His symptoms included severe itching, skin disorder/rash, hair loss and weight loss. I brought him to 3 different vets, one specialized in pet allergies. Each vet treated Micah, he got better then got worse again. Over and over again I took Micah to the vet to get him treated for his apparent allergies, he would get better, however he was still losing hair and weight. This same process went on for over two years and I could tell it was taking a toll on him. Finally I had made the decision to put Micah down, I couldn’t stand to see the discomfort in his face anymore. My decision wasn’t easy, I didn’t make it over a weekend. Prior to making this decision, I spoke with his vet and bottom line there wasn’t much more he could do. Out of all three vets, not one of them could definitively tell me what was wrong with Micah, other than he had allergies. I was able to cope with my decision up until today, when Micah was put down. Afterwards I felt so much guilt for what I had decided, yet in the back of my mind I felt I had made the right decision for him. As I write this I keep asking myself if I made the right decision, could I have done more, should I have done more? I am having such a hard time dealing with guilt that I don’t know what to do. At this point I wish I never made the decision to put him down.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
Danny, you made the most difficult decision and were completely selfless about it. You wanted your dog to be pain-free. You went to multiple vets to try and help him and unfortunately none could. It is so easy to feel guilty in this situation, but please do not. You did everything you could and with the guidance of your vet, you decided what you felt was best for him. That’s what you did every day for him in his life when you made vet appointments, fed him, took him for walks, played with him and more. Your dog is now pain-free and that is because you were selfless in your decision. Please know you are in my thoughts.
Lea rivera
My 16 year old daughters dog got out Saturday and was hit by a car. She has slept with him for the last 3 years and is beyond devastated. I just don’t know how to help her. Please please give me some advice.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss. Loss at any age can be devastating. Try talking to your daughter about death and perhaps reminiscing about your favorite memories of your dog could help. Some people jump straight in to adopting another dog, so they have something to put their energy into. This isn’t for everyone though. I’m sorry if that’s not very helpful, but that’s what comes to mind first. Your daughter is lucky to have you to help her through this. You are all in my thoughts.
Cynthia
I let my dog out at 5 pm to go use the bathroom. He always came back safely and great. However, this time he was gone for a long time, so long that he didn’t return the next morning. I was thinking that someone had taken him or he had run away, but a part of me was hoping that he would come back and we could play and I would teach him tricks like we had always done. It wasn’t until the next afternoon that my parents told me that they had found out that he had been bitten by a dog. I honestly feel so much anger towards the dog that bit him, if he hadn’t been there my dog would still be here curled up in my lab. I really feel lost and hopeless because every time I came from school he was the ball of happiness that would greet me at the door. I’m thinking of getting another dog, but I feel like it’s too soon and I am scared that the same thing might happen to the dog. The dog that got bit only lived 1 year, and I’m not sure if I can offer happiness to a dog at the moment. I really wish my little furry bestfriend would still be here with me, staring at me while I write this, hoping that I would go and play with him. I couldn’t have thought that today, I wouldn’t own a pet, I would’ve thought that I would be happy and okay but I just can’t stop thinking about my dog and how he died alone. How he was in the ground, with blood pouring out of his neck from the bite, and I was over here at home thinking he would come back.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry, Cynthia. You are in my thoughts.
Marquits
I am so heart broken I had to put my happy baby Twinkie to sleep feb 23,2019. Two Weeks ago I came home and her stomach was so bloated. I took her to vet they found fluid on her chest and abdomen and suggested I take her to emergency they were doing expensive I could not afford it. I had her on LASIK in hopes it would rid fluid but it didn’t she got worse. She stopped eating And couldn’t keep her balance just very weak and was popping blood. I took her back to vet and decided to put her down I feel so guilty because I didn’t have the money to see what was wrong they say congestive heart failure kidney failure, or cancer. I’m so sad lost And depressed without her it happened so sudden please pray for me I keep having flashbacks of her last breath in my arms!
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Christi
I am so sorry. I put my dog, Jake, down on feb 25, 2019. I really feel guilty. He was 13 years old and was falling all the time and get down or up the steps to go to the bathroom. I didn’t want him to suffer and I know that he was in pain. I am so heartbroken. I am having him cremated so at least I will have his ashes with me.
Nathan
My dog passed this morning he was only 2 years old I’m so distraught I don’t know where to start he has similar symptoms but he just stopped breathing by the time I got to the ER he passed I held him in my arms one last time and didn’t want to let go hoping he would wake up
Andrew
Last night 2 of our beagles escaped my yard while I was at work. My wife was home and had just let them out. Ten minutes later they were gone threw a hole under the fence that I [thought] had previously filled the week before. Their escape happened around 3 or 4 in the afternoon and 8 didn’t get home from work until after 10pm. Partly because I had taken the long way home searching for my kids. Then this morning I received a phone call from animal services stating they had my babies but that Luna, my 8 year old beagle, who in our house was truly my dog, was hit and killed by a car. I gathered my things as tears rolled down my cheeks, called my wife at work to tell her, and then before I even opened the door to leave I collapsed on the floor sobbing. I forced myself to drive to the shelter determined to bring both of my babies home, so I could lay Luna to rest. She had just turned 8 on Valentine’s Day. She was the sweetest dog, so full of love that she’d literally sqeak uncontrollably when I’d come home or even woke up and came out of the bedroom. She’d roll on her back and wiggle on the floor making these goofy grunting noises.she would curl up with me in my recliner nestled between my legs with her head on my lap. I can’t believe she’s gone, and I keep expecting her to whine at the door to be let back inside, or to get a phone call saying “hey, we found Luna!” Even though I know she’s now buried not 20 feet from where I’m sitting now, in a place in the yard she’d like to sit and sunbath in. I haven’t stopped crying all day, and the hour of sleep I’ve had was tear filled as well. I’m trying so hard not to blame my wife, or my other beagle, Snoopy, or myself for not securing that damn hole… I know that $hit happens, and like many of you I have cried all day, “why did it have to be MY dog?” The only light in this is that Snoopy was safe and that,based on her injuries, it doesn’t seem like she suffered at all. And given the circumstances I couldn’t ask for more. And while I am not religious I do hope that she is in a better place where she can be the loving, sweet, beautiful, squeaky, wiggly happy pup that she was in life. I remember the movie “A Dogs Life” and I hope that one day she will come back into my life reborn… but until then how do you remain happy and positive? Everyone says focus on the good times….but the good times are what is making me cry to the point of pain and dehydration? I’ve dealt with sudden loss of a pet before, just as sudden in fact, but from an undiagnosed disease. And that pain was nothing compared to this… in that case I felt like I did everything I could do, even CPR, but with Luna…I just feel…helpless I guess? Like ifeven one instant had been different in the slightest way I’d have my babygirl home curled up in between my legs, her head on my lap…sitting in my recliner….
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Linda Zahorik
This may sound strange but with so many of you speaking about having to put down your ill dogs, I wish I could trade places with you. You know you are keeping your dog from suffering. I am looking at putting down a 4 year old black lab, who broke both ACL’s at once and in the process and pain of that recovery has now, five months post surgery began to lash out at people. She has caused 2, level 3 bites, both out of the blue with no provocation. She was simply being pet. I Began working with a dog behaviorist after the first bite and while she improved in so many ways, you can never guarantee 100% the dog will not bite again. I am having to put down a beautiful, friendly, loving dog who is so good 99% of the time, because the other 1% could be devastating to someone in the future. I have to tell myself that her sickness, which is in her brain, is no different than the physical sicknesses all the rest of you have compassionately dealt with in your animals. Having to lose a love of your life is so hard. Thanks for listening.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry, Linda. I can’t imagine what you are going through. One could say that in some instances what you are going through is more difficult than someone saying goodbye to their dog with cancer because you don’t see the illness overcome your dog with every minute that passes. You are in my thoughts.
Lauren
I had to go through this situation and the loss of my 15 month old coonhound today. I have no words to make it better. Only compassion for the feeling.
Dave
We adopted our son, Petey, four years ago from a local shelter. He is a Jack Russell/Westie mix, and is as adorable as can be. He was a senior dog at 9 years old and was absolutely a mess at the shelter. This only made us want to give Petey a home even more. Petey had two dads in us, and he didn’t care. He loved us just as he found us. How’s that for love? If we were both home, Petey would insist that his two dads and he go on a walk together. He would trot down the sidewalk, wagging his tail at any human that walked by him, and his ears bouncing the entire time. We really didn’t go on walks; we went on sniffs. There wasn’t a shrub or tree that Petey didn’t sniff.

Petey was diagnosed with Cushing’s and diabetes insipidus about three years ago. They were under control until about 3-6 months ago. Since that time, he became increasingly more hungry and thirsty. The vet recently thought he would decline over the next 6 months. Unfortunately, on Sunday evening, Petey started vomiting and drinking tons of water. We just thought he had an upset stomach. On Monday morning, he still was drinking tons of water and vomiting. We rushed Petey to the hospital. They did some lab work, checked for a fever, and took his blood pressure. Nothing there, but he was dehydrated, so they put Petey on fluids. In the meantime, an ultrasound showed an enlarged pancreas. Our baby had pancreatitis. Monday he continued fluid and was given pain medication. He was doing better, and we even took him for a walk that evening at the hospital. On Tuesday, he wouldn’t drink or eat anything, so a feeding tube was placed in his nose. He couldn’t tolerate it, and his stool became bloody. The vet changed his pain medication and gave him medicine for the bloody stool. He was improving again. Sadly, we received a call early Thursday morning that we needed to get to the hospital. We brought his bed from home and put Petey in his own bed. His body completely relaxed once he got in his own bed. We looked our poor baby in his big brown eyes, gave him lots of kisses, and told him that we loved him more than sunshine. He opened his eyes, so we know that he knew his dads were there. He is with the angels now. Petey, we love you now and forever!

Our pain is so great over the loss of Petey, especially because it was so sudden. We break out in tears all of a sudden but know it’s part of our grieving process. Last night we looked at the hundreds of pictures we took of our baby and videos, some with him just drinking or eating out of his bowl. So cute! This was very therapeutic for us to remember the goods times, and not the image of him at the hospital. We hope that all of you find peace and know your best friend understands and loved you.

Kimberly Alt (Admin)
Dave, I am so sorry for your loss. Petey sounds like the best dog you could dream of. I’m so glad Petey had his dads with him during his final moments. You are all in my thoughts.
Amy Swain
On Sunday 17/02/19 I had to put my beautiful little Stella to sleep. She was my absolute best friend. We stood by each others side for 11 years. My heart is broken and the guilt is unbearable. She had cancerous tumours and they had started to spread. I noticed on the Friday that her left eye had started to buldge slightly, by the Sunday she was very sick. I don’t know why but I was expecting there to be some kind of miracle and we’d skip out of the vets together and everything would be fine, this was not the case. She passed away sitting in my arms and giving me kisses. We started with a kiss 11 years ago and we ended with one. I am getting married in a few days and Stella had her own seat at the ceremony and she was coming with us on the honeymoon. This has devastated me and I’m not quite sure how to cope. I miss my pup and I wish I could have saved my little girl. I love you Stella.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry, Amy. You are in my thoughts. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
Sinead Killoran
Hi I just lost my extremely health dog. He was 12 but never looked it! Everyone who met him said they thought he was a puppy .His name was Jack I was only 8 when we got I’m and am now Turing 20. Yesterday we took him out to the park and he had the best day in the sun that evening he had a stroke and died within the hour of bringing him to the vet and home I’m so socked and grief has over come me I can’t stop crying my heart is broken I don’t know what to do
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m glad he had a wonderful final day. Allow yourself to grieve and don’t feel pressured to have yourself put together. It’s ok for you to not be ok right now. You are in my thoughts.