How To Deal With The Death Of Your Dog

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Dog grave (caption: How To Deal With Dog Death)Your pet is a part of your family and losing them can be emotionally devastating. If you or someone you know recently lost a canine companion, we offer you our most sincere condolences. We’ve been there and understand the pain you are feeling right now.

Here are some additional strategies and insights to help you work through this difficult time.

The Grief Process

Everyone deals with grief in different ways. Strong initial emotions my preclude the inevitable sadness that comes when the shock is gone. These reactions are often taken out on those closest to the one experiencing the loss, and act almost as a means of protection for that person until they are able to face the truth.

The process, as a whole, may look like the following:

  1. Denial and/or anger
  2. Guilt
  3. Sadness and/or grief
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance

Dealing With Your Grief

While grieving is a very individual and personal thing, there comes a time for us all when it’s best to stop feeling the loss and to actively choose to move past it. The right time for you, will not necessarily be the same as someone else. Depending on how long it takes you to move through denial and get to acceptance, it could take weeks or it could take years for you to become ready to deal with your grief. When you are ready, however, you don’t have to face it alone.

Facing Death Together

Aside from willing family and/or friends, there are entire communities of people who feel just like you and want to connect. Types of support include:

  • Pet-bereavement counseling
  • Pet-loss support hotlines
  • Online and/or local pet-loss support groups and forums

If sitting down for a one-on-one with an actual counselor, or even getting up the nerve to attend a local support group proves too much at this point in your process, Tufts University Cummings School of Veterinary medicine offers a toll-free, Pet Loss Support Hotline for grieving parties. You can also add your thoughts below to receive Pet Loss Support from our community here.

Personally Facing Death

While outside support is an important tool for coping with your grief, there are some things that a support group can’t do for you… you have to do them for yourself.

Here are a few things that you can do on your own to help on your path to recovery:

  • Acknowledge your sadness, embrace it, and give yourself permission to feel and express this pain! It’s a vital part of the healing process.
  • Write out your feelings. Whether it’s in a personal journal or an essay on Fido that you submit for publication, writing is extremely cathartic.
  • Volunteer with a local animal shelter. While this may be best left for the later stages of grief, just like helping other people helps you forget your own problems, helping other animals will help you move past your loss.
  • Prepare a memorial for your pet. The act of having a service, saying a few words, and laying your pup to rest will definitely help give you the closure you need.

Dealing With Reality

Beyond your grief lies reality: Whether you’re having to make the tough decision to euthanize your sick or aging pet, or if your pet is already gone and you’re having to deal with the memorial, and burial or cremation arrangements, the reality of these situations can come crashing down on you like a ton of bricks.

This can leave you feeling overwhelmed and unsure of where to turn. We’ll walk you through these separate scenarios so you can confidently cope with whatever comes your way throughout the process.

Dog Euthanasia

As your pet ages, or in the event that your otherwise healthy pup should become unexplainably ill or injured beyond recovery, it may be necessary to become emotionally prepared to euthanize your pet. From knowing when it’s time, how to say goodbye and what to expect next, our article on Dog Euthanasia will walk you through this difficult process so you don’t have to do it alone.

Dog Cremation

Whether your dog’s death was of natural causes, or you were forced to make that tough decision yourself to end his or her pain and suffering, once your dog has passed comes the matter of cremation or burial. Our article on dog cremation and burial offers information on the process of dealing with the remains, and options for memorializing your pet after death.

Remembering Your Pet

Don’t forget: The best way to honor your pet, your four-legged family member, is to remember the good times you had together and to be grateful that you were given the valuable time you had. Gratefulness goes a long way in the healing process, and helps us remember that, despite the heartache when our sweet ones pass on, that it was worth it… and that one day, it will be worth it again.

Rainbow Bridge Can Comfort One Dealing With The Loss Of A Pet

Whether you are dealing with the loss of a pet yourself or helping a loved one manage their pain, the Rainbow Bridge is always a nice story to share your sympathy in a very empathetic and caring way.

Rainbow Bridge Poem

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Video: Rainbow Bridge Song

Discussing and sharing stories of your pet after losing them one way to begin the healing process. We welcome you to leave memories of your dog in our comments below.

Another sweet idea is to create a dog gift or photo book with your loved one’s photo to remember them. Looking back through old photos allows you to relive the memories you cherished together.

How will you remember your pet?

About The Author:

Sara is a writer for Canine Journal. She adores dogs and recently adopted a rescue pup named Beamer. Whole she may be adjusting to life with another being to care for, she needed no time to adjust to all the extra love.

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Christine Cloutier
My very healthy 5 pound , 10 year old Maltese was thoroughly examined, all blood work was great.Her only problem was her teeth. 5 years ago she had them cleaned and 6 were extracted.Now she had the same thing done, 6 teeth extracted. We took her home, she was sleepy,ate very small amount soft food, no water. Later last night she began wheezing. Sleeping off and on. In the early morning she was still wheezing and very weak. Took her in to the vet. They did a chest x-ray and immediately after she just died. They tried to resuscitate her but no luck. The vet said her lungs were swollen and fluid was building up in her heart.
Tosh
Last night we had to put my Yorkie, Chico down due to congestive heart failure. His heart was almost the entire size of his chest cavity. He was just a few months away from his 12th birthday and still had a crazy amount of energy. We had him on heart meds and some pills to rid the fluid around his lungs, as he would cough and hack quite a bit the last month or so. He sometimes did this when he got really excited, so we never thought it would get to this point so quickly. The meds didn’t help much and it progressively got worse over the last week. The house feels so empty without him and I can’t bear to move his bed, or his stairs to the couch yet. It’s so sad. He was the absolute best little friend. I held him in my arms at the vet last night with my mom and as painful as it was, I’m glad he isn’t suffering any longer because seeing him go from spunky and energetic to tired from staying up all night coughing was the worst.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Carolina
Hello Tosh. I also lost my dog last night due to congestive heart failure. He had just turned 11. He was put on a breathing tube because he was unable to breathe on his own and just before they were about to remove his tubes to see how he was progressing, he passed on his own. He was also coughing and hacking, mostly while excited. He was also on heart meds (vetmedin) and meds to reduce the fluid around his lungs as this was his second time hospitalized. We are so saddened by his loss and cannot believe he is gone.
Nina
Hi. I’m sorry for your loss. It’s one of the hardest things to go through. I too had to put my 10 year old Pomeranian to sleep last Friday night and haven’t stopped crying since. I feel like I let him down after not going in deeper to try and slow the profession of degenerative kidney disease. I had no idea I would only have him for 9 months after he was diagnosed. The silence at home is deafening and I’m afraid this pain is never going to go away. rip my little man. I can’t wait to see you again one day.
Evelyn bayford
I adopted my cavalier Leo when he was one year old he was painfully thin the previous owners fed him straight onto adult food instead of puppy. I soon built him up and vet checked.
He was the light of my life , he saved my life by alerting me to breast cancer,
He had a heart attack a few months after my treatment finished and the vets got him through it . Once again few months after he had a stroke before my very eyes once again the vets got him through it, he was on heart meds and blood pressure meds. About three weeks after his stroke I noticed a small marble size lump on his throat I took him to vets and they said it was either lymphoma or abscess we treated him for abscess but no difference took him back to vets and had a test done it cam back negative, but the lump grew to the size of a golf ball in a matter of weeks I took him back to vets and they said it had to come out, on the last March 2019 he went in for operation but the vet came out oftheatre to tell me it was cancer and attached to his trachea, he could take it outbutwoukdbe back within a couple months, I had to make that decision to let him go.
It’s now been nearly ten months and I still cry I miss him so so much I feel guilty because of what he done for me but I couldn’t do it for him, I couldn’t put him through chemo his heart would not have coped. I can’t even talk about him without crying, deep down I know I done the right thing but it’s not making me feel any better I want him back.
I cannot bring myself to get another dog for fear I could not love them as much as I loved him.
I look at rescue dogs but I just fill up with tears for Leo , I really feel my heart is breaking into pieces
I have is ashes alongside my other dog who I got from battersea when she was six months old and she got just short of her 19th birthday and I had to let her go.

Sorry I went on a bit but I really do miss him so much

Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Chloe loves Bluey
Hello Evelyn
I am so sorry to hear of your loss of Leo. I too put my beautiful Bluey girl down on the 31st of March, because of cancer( multiple myeloma). Multiple myeloma like lymphoma is a definite death sentence. I found out she had it only 6 weeks before I put her down. She couldn’t even turn herself over in bed anymore. The cancer was affecting so many systems and organs in her body. She stopped going to the toilet. Couldn’t stand up. Her breathing was so laboured. Touching her hurt her bones. It was awful.I was one of those owners who always tried to stay ahead of the game with prevention through a healthy diet and lifestyle for my best girl . We went to the vets often and started going monthly when she was diagnosed with arthritis last July. Despite looking for cancer, I missed it . When I did find out that she had it through another vet, I can only try to describe it as the sky came falling down.He recommend chemo. I took her for a second opinion to my long time family vet and he advised against chemo. Instead recommending holistically supporting her body through what is an inevitable death with or without chemo.The cancer had metastasized.Her body completely failed just 6 weeks later. Chemo might have bought her more time I now realise. The worst thing is that I fear it might have even eased her pain according to the hundreds of articles that I have read on the subject since her death. My guilt too is all consuming. I struggle and still cry every day. One thing that you and I both know is that we loved those dogs. We loved them in the most beautiful and pure and unconditionally as love can be. We didn’t want them to suffer was the bottom line. We knew that they were dying. We didn’t want them to die painfully, through a heart attack,blood clot,septicaemia,acytes or toxicity from their poisoned livers,kidneys even their blood.We didn’t want them to suffer more. We wanted to ensure we would be by their side also at the end. We loved those dogs Evelyn. I personally believe that We will be with our dogs again for many reasons. I won’t go into it to much on this site because I know not everyone wants to hear it. I definitely do believe this though. When it comes to the subject of getting another dog, I really think that you should when you think you are ready.We will always be dog people. We just don’t have the one most special one that our hearts desire to be with the most. That love is a connection for life(and beyond), and will never be broken. If you get a new dog Evelyn, you will never love it like you loved Leo. That is a good thing though. However because you are aware of that, your obviously strong maternal instincts will kick in; and you will love your new dog in a way that most dogs unfortunately never get to experience in any real way from human beings. Go get a rescue dog. You have alot of love to give. Leo only made your heart bigger.
God Bless You Evelyn and Leo
Ryan
We lost our 10 year old Wheaten Terrier, Penny last night. We let her out on the balcony like usual, she typically walks down the stairs onto the patio and into the back yard to do her business. After 20 minutes she didn’t come back to the door, so my wife went downstairs and called to her, but no resposne. She found her on one of the steps kind of listless. So she carried her inside and up the stairs. Penny just laid down and didn’t want to walk, bark, eat, anything. I noticed she was breathing really heavy and her tongue was blue, so we loaded her up and I drove her to emergency vet care. She had expired on my way there (though I didn’t realize that at the time); I asked for CPR, which they did. The vet came out to the lobby to tell me that after 10 minutes she had no heartbeat – I broke down and sobbed. There was another couple in the waiting room; seeing me break down caused the woman to break down crying also. They gave me a few minutes with Penny, I hugged her and rubbed her belly like she used to love. They think she slipped on the stairs and collided with the railing, broke a rib which punctured her lung. I came home with just her collar in my hand. My wife sobbed. We’ve been crying all day today in waves. I keep hearing her paws scratching on the wooden floor and then realize it’s not her. The whole thing was just so sudden. I can still see her paw prints in the snow down in the yard. I just wish I could’ve had a chance to give her her favorite smoked salmon and a nice long run at the dog park before she died. Those little bags of fur are so special.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Panda
We put our 15 year old poodle Spot to sleep last Sunday. It was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. He had diabetes for over 3 years and was blind. But the last few weeks he was confused and couldn’t hold his urine. He couldn’t walk very well and suddenly didn’t eat as much. I fed him his favorite salmon the morning we took him to the vet and held him when they gave the euthanasia. I asked him to give me a sign that I made the right decision. It was raining all day but when we came home right in front the house (we live by the ocean) was a huge rainbow which reached into the sky. I know we all talk about the rainbow bridge but it was as if he was telling me he really was there. I still feel him walking beside me when I walk the other dogs but it’s as if he’s young and happy again. I’m crying while I write this but I wanted to share it.
Jessica Blair
My dog, Maxine, passed away at home yesterday. Very similar circumstances. I am devastated. We don’t have any other furry family members and are keenly feeling her physical absence. I know she is with me and she will always be with me, and I know that she knew she was loved. Reading your post has been very encouraging. Thank you for sharing and much love to you and your family as you grieve your loss.
Mickie
I am getting ready to let my Ollie go, I have two days with him before he goes. He is almost 15 and has Cushing disease and he is blind, deaf and has really bad arthritis. He has been slowly going down hill the last week and it is the hardest decision to let him go but he has no kind of life and his disease is slowly causing his organs to shut down and I don’t want him to be in pain anymore. I have had him for 14 years and I feel my heart being torn apart. So I feel you. Yes my tears won’t stop.
Madison Lozen
Today, November 23, we let go of our 11 year old labradoodle Murray, he was fine until this morning. He was lying on the ground shaking and I told my parents that he needed to go to the vet. I knew it was his last day. I was there and held him as he died. I had him since I was 8 and I do not know how to cope with it. He was always part of the family. He was my brother. I love him.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Yessie Minaya
On November 8, 2019, I made what has been the most traumatic and difficult decision of my life—putting my dog Nacho, of 10 years to sleep. He had been diagnosed in March with canine lymphoma and his prognosis was not good. I kept him happy and comfortable and did everything I could to boost his immune system and hopefully give him one more quality year of life—the best I got was 8 months. I had him since he was 6 weeks. He was a true mutt—part chihuahua, beagle and dachshund, Black and Tan with spots of white and a truly handsome face. He was the runt of the litter, so tiny and it took him a very long time to learn to walk in comparison to his other siblings. But, my family loved him anyway. He was not always a good boy. More often than not, he was a bad boy. Stubborn, crazy, disobedient, impulsive, a clown, and wanting always to be the center of attention. Yet, these same bad traits are exactly what made him so much fun to be around. He made us laugh with his antics, like when he fished my sisters underwear from a laundry bag and dropped them at the feet of the guy that would eventually become her husband. Or when he took it upon himself to remove the buttons off the buttoned down shirts that my mom was packing for her trip to the Caribbean. Or like the time we couldn’t find him because he had wedged himself in between the luggage as we packed to go to the Adirondacks— I think that was his way of saying that there was absolutely no way was he going to be left behind. There are so many stories, but I think you get it. He was a character and we loved him with all of his quirks. It was so hard to see him go from 33 to 26 pounds in a span of 8 weeks. The cancer wasting away his muscle mass faster than we could keep up. The night before he died, was quite possibly the worst night of his life, where I patiently took him out to the yard every 2 hours so that he could relieve himself—at this point it was mostly blood. I prayed to god for a sign that would give me the strength to put him out of his misery. That morning, I don’t know how he did it, but he mustered up the energy to chase a feral cat out of the yard—a job he had been doing for 10 years. After running a few yards, he fainted. I thought he had died, and nearly lost it. He came to a few seconds later, and I knew I had my sign. There was just no way I could deny that he was suffering, and selfishly keep him alive because I just couldn’t let
him go. I called the vet, and took him in. I keep thinking now how fast it was all over—10 seconds maybe? I sobbed my heart out and I still don’t know how I was able to get up after it was over. It’s been 11 days, and we still can’t get over the silence. The mornings are the worst for me. We had a routine of walking or driving to the park everyday at 7am, weather permitting. And, although towards his final days he no longer wanted to go, my mind still wakes at the same time hoping to see his happy face and wagging tail greet me by the door. But he’s not there. The cadence in the house seems so off. I’ve tried everything. Moved furniture, got rid of his bowls, his toys the bed, etc. But, it’s just not the same. At times a longing just overtakes me and I feel it so deeply it takes my breath away. And, I find myself wishing I could just see him and hold him one more time. It’s so debilitating, sometimes I’m unable to get any work done when this happens. I wonder if anyone else here can relate. In a few weeks I will get his ashes. I will spread some in the park where we did our daily walks, and an engraved stone will be placed in the memorial garden that’s located there. I hope this will help me find closure and that in time I will manage my grief better. Right now, writing this experience down, although difficult, I feel has helped a little. I feel that by putting it in writing, I’m keeping his memory alive, and that this will help me cope. He was my favorite hello and by far my hardest goodbye. Thank you and my prayers to all of you experiencing this kind of pain.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
christopher wing
Im 11 years old and im only doing this because my dog who has been with me my whole life is going to die in 1 or 2 weeks. he is an awsome dog.
Jessica Blair
Christopher, my thoughts are with you as you deal with this. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings. Your dog loves you and has had a great life with you. I just lost my 13 year old dog. It is a very sad time.
Jessica Blair
I lost my black lab, Maxine, at home yesterday. She was 13. She had been with me from 10 weeks old. My Dad was with her, he called me at work to let me know she was critically ill, and eventually when she had passed. We don’t think she would have made it to the Vet if he’d taken her, nor whether there would have been any value in prolonging her suffering. I am devastated. I have second guessed my decisions, felt guilty for being at work when I knew she was in a terrible way, and just grieved constantly over the last day. Thankfully, I was able to come home to be with her right away. I was so thankful to get to spend a little time with her before I took her to the Vet for cremation. There was a young family at the Vet also going through the same thing. I am just thankful I don’t have children and don’t have to explain this to them in addition to my own grief, but perhaps it could help? I’m not sure. What I do know to be true is that sharing in grief and allowing yourself the space to grieve and to heal is so important, necessary, and healthy. I don’t have it in me just yet to put away her toys, her bed, and her bowls. I think I need to give it some time. I am still drawing a certain amount of comfort from seeing them. I had a dream last night that we got it wrong and that she was still alive. We went on a beautiful walk and she was talking to me. It felt so real. I like to think on some level this is true. She is still alive inside of me. I am grateful for this community. Thank you so much for sharing your stories.
Laura K
Last night my best friend in the world died unexpectedly. She was 12 but in good health. The whole day was normal and she seemed happy and energetic. Out of nowhere she laid on the ground and couldnt get up. I rushed her to the ER where the doctors tried to help but couldn’t. She died and a part of me did too. I miss her every moment and can’t imagine never seeing her, hugging her, playing with her, scrunching up her face or just being with her ever again. I am devastated. She was my sunshine. I wish there was some way to keep her with me always. I love you Chewie. You gave me life and I hope someday someway we will meet again. Thank you for being my heart and my soul. Love you pup.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
David
I feel exactly the same. It’s excrutiatingly sad. Like you I can’t imagine not having my little girl in my life. I was so devoted and loved her so much.
Kayleigh
Today it’s time for me to say goodbye to Elsa, our family dog. I knew last when I saw her last month, it could be the last time, but I still hoped that it wasn’t. The time has come.
I am trying to focus on the positive, to remember that amazing life that we have been able to provide for her. She was abandoned when she was around three, left to fend for herself. We took her in and were blessed with the most well-behaved and loving dog. Everyone who met her wanted to take her home, even people who were afraid of dogs. But the years have gone by and now her life is coming to an end. It is heartbreaking to see her so still, too tired to react to her favourite toys. We did everything we could to bring happiness to her life. It makes me sad to know that our loving memories end here but I just hope she goes on, knowing that we loved her and happy with the life she had.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
A.O.
RIP Bruiser
November 12, 2019
Audrienna
On the morning of the 9th, we had to let our boy Gump go. He was diagnosed with splenic cancer on the 26th of October, underwent surgery to remove the spleen only to find out that it spread to his liver and it was extremely aggressive. We lost him 2 weeks later. I had him since he was a baby, and he had his 9th birthday in September. Even though I have gone through this with many dogs in the past, his loss has left me completely devastated. He was my shadow and did everything with me. I am 20 weeks pregnant and we were planning on having him around for the baby. My other dog is very sad too and I feel like an empty shell, completely alone.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Paige
My best friend passed away on Monday night at 11pm, he was 14 years old. He had a heart condition from birth but the past 3 weeks deteriorated massively to the point he was just laying on the floor wagging his tail every time we walked passed, we took him to the vets and he was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, he was on medication to help pump the blood around his body but unfortunately on Monday he closed his eyes forever. I am absolutely heart broken, he was my first ever dog and we have had him since I was 10. I just can’t describe the pain I am feeling I truly am devastated. My brother visited my nana and grandads grave and asked them to take care of Smudge up there. I know it is still raw but I just can’t stop thinking about him, I’m so sad that he has gone but I am grateful for the amazing 14 years we had with him, and I am grateful for his peaceful departure from this world. I hope he knows how much we loved him and how much he meant to us. I am so scared to finish work this evening and walk into my house and not be greeted at the door – I love you my boy and I can’t wait to see you again xxx
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Lynn
Five days ago my Butch was ran over and killed.he was two years old we were there when he was born had to feed him by bottle At a week old and he slept in the bed with us ever since. I can’t stop crying it hurts so much
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Lynn
It’s so bad we’re moving we just can’t stay here with out him.
Missy
I’m so sorry for your loss, my 4 yr old English bully just fell down a 12 foot storm drain and we’ve found him deceased. I’m traumatized and so hurt. I can’t live life without missing him. I’m devastated he was my baby! I hope you are learning to deal with the loss, prayers to you,
Kat
I lost my 5 year old miniature pinscher on the 11th of October. My husband stayed home that day to look after our toddler who was sick with fever and left our dog in our fenced backyard for a couple of hours ( husband fell asleep after he managed to put our son down for a nap) and our dog never gets left alone in the backyard for such a long time so he found a way to escape from the backyard.
When my husband woke up, our dog was nowhere to be found. He called me at work, my heart stopped and I drove as fast as I could to get here and look for him together.
We looked and looked for hours, some neighbors we didn’t even know also started looking for him. Some people we asked saw him running really fast on the street about 30 mins before I arrived but no one tried to catch him.
We kept looking for him but he was nowhere to be found and I knew deep down in my heart something bad had happened for him to go missing for so many hours. After 4 hours of looking we drove past a busy road and our worst nightmare came true. We found him dead on the side of the road, obviously run over by a car.
I loved this dog just like I love my child, I rescued him 4 years ago and wanted to give him a good long life but I feel like I failed and I feel so hurt and guilty about it. I am 5 months pregnant and I was looking forward for our family to grow. I can’t stop crying thinking the way my dog died. I had promised I would care for him forever and protect him. I miss him so much and I can’t stop wondering why he run off to that busy road? Out of all the quiet streets and parks in the neighborhood why would he go there, I just don’t understand and it’s killing me.
I hope one day I can forgive myself and my husband for what happened. I am so sorry my boy for not being there to protect you. Rest In Peace, you will always live in my heart and my mind.
I’m so grateful for the time we spent together eventhough it was not as long as you deserved to live.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry.
Melissa
My dog got out of the yard 2 days ago he never runs away he went across the street and fell in a storm drain a 12 ft drop. I’m sick to my stomach I found him laying there . We just buried him, I feel so guilty because I think he to was left outside a few hours! I just had a newborn so things are chaotic I’m devastated! I pray this gets better
David
You have to forgive yourself.
Luci
Sorry for your losses. I am writing this with a heavyheart and salty buckets of tears. Bear with me it’s still fresh. I lost my fur baby a few days ago he would be 84 in dog years in a few weeks.he was 12 years old.12 years with my first dog we all loved him like a family member. Choc played like a pup til the end he died in his sleep. Saw signs of age but he was still living great life. Losing him is definitely a chunk of my heart is broken it physically hurts. I stay strong for family members. The kids are married and at college. We go him when they were very little in elementary school so he grew up with the kids that’s why I call him my baby. He was so smart and loving and cute. So shocking. I was giving him a nightly good night buddy he didn’t respond woke up his dad and he said he’s gone. I was like hey buddy I was so hurt I physically got Ill and couldn’t catch my breath. His Dad had to grab me and talk to me I was deeply hurt&achy pain. I had to pull myself together and check for an vet emergency room for help. I found one and they gave me a set of paw prints and a coffin I was unable to get him cremated until the next day. 2008 was his first year. I was hoping to get forever with him but he gave me so much joy miss his smile his bark his sweet spirit. He was my yoga buddy he had his own mat he stretch too took pictures and he loved long walks in the great outdoors road trips and family time hanging out when everyone is here for the holidays. He missed the first snowfall. His favorite time of year. Kept his cute coat hung up.love that little guy. Thanks to bark box for providing my little dude with fun and cool things love him keeping his two beds and water dish full . Miss you buddy smarted dog I ever knew love you forever and always. Luci your Mom and until we meet again in heaven you will always have a place in my heart and my family member.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Maria
I lost my beautiful boy Max on the 28th October and still cant believe he’s gone. He was the craziest but cuddliest most loving dog you could ever wish to meet, and was loved by everyone who was lucky enough to meet him. He was diagnosed with end stage renal failure three weeks previously and although we did what we could and he really fought there was no way he could survive. I feel so guilty as although I knew something was wrong and I kept taking him to the vets, I obviously didn’t explain his symptoms correctly and his condition was missed until it was too late. I keep screaming at myself why didn’t I ask for blood tests why didn’t I go with my gut which was telling me that in spite of the vet reassuring me everything was fine I knew there was something wrong. The house is so quiet without him he has left such a big hole in all our lives but especially mine as we were home together most days. He was my best friend who followed me everywhere. I feel so empty and sad and just can’t stop crying. I always knew I would miss him like crazy but the fact that I let him down is just unbearable.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Yessie Minaya
Dont blame yourself. I know what you are feeling. Unfortunately, we trust those that are in the veterinary profession to guide and help us make life better for our pets. Unfortunately, they make mistakes, too. Like not insisting on a blood test to rule out what was a life threatening condition. You loved your baby, that’s the bottom line. And, if tour live alone could have keep him alive, he would have lived forever. That’s how I feel about my boy. So, hang in there, I’m told it gets better. I’m hoping that it’s true.
Kristian Frasser
My sweet boy tank died in my arms a day ago. He was an absolute giant of an american bulldog with ice blue eyes that never met a person he didn’t like. His sudden illness and passing has me a mess. I promised him I would never put him down because I felt that it wasn’t my place to take his life or play God and had a conversation with him when he was diagnosed with cancer about me not doing that to him and him having to leave on his own will. Well he did just that. After being given a “no more that two weeks left” prognosis and out living it by about a month and a half his health took a pretty drastic nose dive. His breathing became labored from one hour to the next and suddenly routine things like standing up to eat, drink or going to the bathroom became visibly distressing to him. I remember laying on the floor with him and seeing his entire body quiver out of no where and having that sinking feeling in my gut.

I again sat next to him, as he panted, and asked him if it was time and that it was on him when he was leaving and he just gazed at me with those blue eyes of his and I knew immediately that the end was near. The next two nights were spent by his side in a rotation between my girl friend and I. She had grown very attached to him due to his loving and gentle nature. Her face was the only one I had ever seen him lick in affection and I could generally tell that he trusted her as much as he trusted me..maybe even more lol. When my gf realized that the end was near and his health was declining rapidly she ask me “what do I do? I don’t know what to do!” Through tears. I, resigned to the fact that nothing short of god coming down in human form and curing tank, simply stated “we just need to love him and be there for him. His time is coming.” We both agreed that his final mommemts on earth would be spent surrounded by love.

He quickly became bed bound and I had to move his water bowl close to his bed as his back legs had given out on him in an earlier attempt to drink water and ear some of his soft food. I remember getting ready for work and him just laying on the ground following me with his eyes around the room. Right before I walked out the house I got on my knees in front of him and kissed his forehead and told him I would be back soon and this his momma would be home shortly after I left. He followed me out the house with his eyes as I walked out the garage door. I remember looking at him the entire way out..hating the fact that I could not stay with him but being ok with the fact that my gf would soon be by his side. She has a very nurturing nature with animals so I knew he would be comfortable with her.

As my evening at work progressed my gf’s updates on tank kept getting more grim by the hour. He managed to muster up enough stress to get off his new doggy bed and walk about 15 feet across the living room floor towards the garage door. He laid back down and stayed where he was the rest of the night until I got home a little past 12am. By the time I walked through the door I had made up my mind that although I had promised not to put him to sleep I was no longer comfortable watching him suffer that way. As I walked through my garage door I announced my presence and saw his tail wag gently against the floor and saw him try and lift his head to try and find me. I told my gf that we needed to get him ready because we were going to put him to sleep. As I sat by his head and began petting it he lifted his tail and went poo while simultaneously going into a seizure. I told my gf, who by this point was crying uncontrollably, that he was about to leave us. His breathing became more labored and spaced between breaths and I could see the peace settling in his eyes. His suffering was almost over. I put my hand on his with the other over his chest and began praying. While feeling his heart slowing own I began praying and telling him that it was ok to leave.. that he had been an amazing dog and that I was sorry I wasn’t a better owner to him. “Please go bubs. Its ok to go. We’ll see each other again. Please stop suffering” and with that he let out his final few breaths and I felt his chest go quiet. He was gone. My best friend and companion of 10 year who I bottle fed as a 5 week old and who loyally went through every imaginable life event with me was gone. With him a piece of my heart.

This has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to deal with or go through. Ever. I take solace in numerous things though. He stayed the time I needed to grieve and come to terms that his illness was terminal and accept it. Also to the fact that although I intended to break my promise with him he decided that he was gonna leave this world on his terms and in the comfort of his house with his mom and dad. I also take solace in the fact that he waited for me to get home to leave. I like to think that his tail wag and head raise when I walked into the house was his final way of saying “you’re home! Now I can rest.” He taught me so many things.

I’ll never forget him. He was my boy. He was my loyal best friend. I’ll miss him till the day i die and we meet again. I know that when my day comes, When ever it comes, my sweet boy will be there waiting for with his big beautiful blue eyes tail wagging up a storm. See ya on the other side bubs! Love You!

Kimberly Alt (Admin)
You are in my thoughts, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Tam
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your story is so touching. Today I’m struggling with missing my sweet girl who was 14. She’s been gone for two months, and it isn’t any easier for me. Some days are better than others but today I’m really having trouble. I don’t know how to be without her. I hope for peace and healing for you.
Judy
Hi Tam, we keep popping up here, as I think we are on a very similar journey. Two months today for me too. The pain is easing, but the tears still flow. In the whole scheme of things, 2 months is a blink of an eye – not long at all, considering how long we had our dogs in our lives (9 years for me). No wonder we are still on a healing journey, as we create a new life without them. Take care.
Tam
Hi Judy, yes we do keep popping up on here don’t we? I don’t look for awhile, but then I’m drawn to it and feel the need to. Yes, the tears still flow for me too, and still can’t quite comprehend that I can’t hold her anymore. I just miss her more than words can say, as you do too. There is an emptiness that just won’t go away. You take care as well, I wish for your healing too.
Judy
Me too, Tam. I seem to be drawn to this page, as it represents part pain and part healing. I have tried to understand the deep level of grief we experience when losing a pet, especially a dog. I have read several articles that explain why we establish such a deep connection to them, and them to us. One states that we should never underestimate the amount of grief that many people feel. Even though nothing else has changed, everything has changed, as our lives will never be the same again. Life will be good, and we will heal, but it will be different. Like you, I still find it hard to comprehend that I will never hold my Snowbell again, and when I think of this, the tears start to flow. But, as I wrote before, I focus on the gratitude that she had a good life and a relatively peaceful end, full of love and contentment. That keeps me going. All the best for your continuing healing journey, Tam…
tam
Awww, hi there Judy….Well, here I am again! Shocking….It is so difficult isn’t it. I too read all kinds of articles to help with my healing. I look for signs, I pray, I talk to Tink when I look up at the stars at night. I know we will heal too, but nothing will be the same again. It can’t be, because sweet Snowbell and Tink were such a huge part of our lives. I also still tear up when I tell someone about her, or when I’m alone with just my thoughts. I’m so very grateful for the life I got to share with her, nothing but joy and love and that is also what I’m trying to focus on. I have a feeling you and I would be great friends with this connection and understanding that we now have. I wish you all the best too. 🙂
Angela
My sweet baby Joey passed on October 27th. He would have been 21 on November 1st. It’s been a week and a half. He passed in my arms. The emptiness I feel is devastating. I’ve had him my entire adult life. I don’t know how to be without him. I miss his kisses and him telling me when to go to bed and him digging in the covers. It’s very hard to sleep without him next to me. I miss him so. He was my once in a lifetime companion. We traveled, we played, we did everything together. Even when showering, he would pull my towel down and lay on it while I was in the shower. He was the best little muppet. Always happy to see me. Always happy and wagging his tail. If his body would have let him, he would have stayed with me forever. Rest easy baby, you were the best for those 20 years. Mommy loves you!
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Trisha
Our sweet Lucie passed in here sleep last night . She was 7 1/2 and had had 2 back surgeries but she was a fighter. She had a traumatic event over the weekend but the vet thought she would pull through. It has been such a shock and we are devastated with her loss. Rest peacefully sweet baby girl, Mom and Dad and sister will love you forever. Kisses and hugs 🙁
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Tammy
I lost my baby Lola last night. She had gone outside to the back yard to potty and was attacked by an unknown animal. I am filled with guilt of letting her go by herself. I wasn’t there to protect her. I was her protector and I was not there for her. Found her with injuries that Doctors could not fix.
She was my everything. I can’t bear this pain in my heart of losing her. She brought so much joy in my life. Lola, I am sorry I was not there for you, to protect you from the pain and trauma you went through. I will always have you in my heart. Now you can run around and play with Hercules like before. Tell him we miss him so much too.
I will never forget you and you will never be replaced. Thank you for being the best dog ever. I love you forever.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Kylee
My Dog, Tyson, just died at the age of 7. He had a heart problem and wouldn’t eat I tried reading this but I still can’t get over it…
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Sydney Shepherd
I lost my sweet boy, Vader, tuesday night in his sleep. it’s now monday and i haven’t stopped crying for more than a few hours at a time. he was 11 years old so i know he lived a good long life but i had my baby vader since he was 6 weeks old and i was 10 years old and he met the world to me. just the sweetest, most compassionate, smart boy. i miss him and love him so so so so so much and i’m going to miss him forever
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Christine
I lost my two 3 month old puppies just 3 days from now because of Parvovirus. For the first one, whose name is Beethoven, we went to veterinarian and he has undergone dextrose and confinement. But after 3 days, he passed away. Then, his sister, Angel, was contaminated with the same disease. We have tried home remedies as the veterinarian’s medicines won’t work. After 3 days, she also passed away. I cried each night and I think I wanted to go with them now as I really miss them. I do not know how to cope with my sadness though we still have 6 adult dogs. I felt the regret not able to provide them the best medication 🙁 I miss them so much. Please help me to accept things like this
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. Parvo is a difficult disease to beat. You are not alone in this and this is not your fault. Please know my thoughts are with you.

In order to keep other dogs safe in your home, neighborhood, etc., be sure to decontaminate everything in your home, yard, etc. Read the article I linked above to keep other dogs safe. You are all in my thoughts.

Cajeme
My beautiful Brunito, my sweet little puppy.
It’s been two days without you and we miss you so much.
You brought so much joy and laughter to our little home. We hope we made you a tenth as happy as you made us.
It was stupid of us to try to fix what was already perfect. I’m sure your beautiful soul already forgave us… I hope someday we can forgive ourselves.
Whenever you feel lonely, find grandma Petrita. She’ll sing to you ‘Rayito de Sol’, as I used to.
We love you, my precious boy. We remember you. Someday we’ll be together again, and we’ll run and chase each other 🙂
Kisses.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Kris
Tonight apart of me has died we have put our American bull down as he has had cancer and tonight he back legs gave way his breathing wasn’t good and it was time how do I cope I’m in bits I want him back
Cece
To Baby, my sweet little girl.

It’s more than a day later and I still can’t believe it.

I loved you so much.

I LOVE you so much.

Even 50 years with you by my side wouldn’t have been long enough for me. There were many times where you and your brother felt like my only friends. Even if you guys couldn’t talk back, you still listened to all of my secrets and loved me when it felt like nobody else did.

I am so blessed to have had the pleasure of being a part of your family.

Thank you for loving me too.

Marie
Week three without my handsome boy…… Feels like the longest three weeks ever, through this it would get easier as time go’s by ,but , it’s not getting easier its harder than I ever thought. I still find myself crying feeling empty. I don’t understand how the rest my my family has just moved on without our boy. I’m still finding it really hard to be happy when I’m feeling all alone at home.
I miss you Captain xxxx
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Judy
Marie, if you are anything like me (and I’m sure many others) 3 weeks is very early days. It is nearly 7 weeks for me, and my heart is still heavy. The worst of the pain has receded but the sadness lingers, and I am sure will for a while yet. Last Friday, the 6 week mark, I wrote a tribute to Snowbell, telling her (our) story, from when I first set eyes on her 9 years ago, to when I held her in my arms as she took her last breath. I wanted to try and work out why this little dog impacted my life so much. They become part of who we are, so naturally we hurt when they are gone. Perhaps your family members just didn’t have the same relationship with Captain as you did – there’s no right or wrong, just what is. I think we just have to embrace this pain as a symbol of our love – I don’t know what else to do. Being at home alone, when they should be there with you is the hardest. I can almost feel Snowbell laying on her bed behind me as I write this. Painful, but I don’t want to forget her or ‘move on’. She’s still my precious girl, always will be, just as Captain is for you. As you can see from this site, you aren’t alone, and that’s some small comfort.
Julio
My dog passed away today, it’s been almost 5 hours and I still can’t believe it. I’m still crying so much. I loved him a lot, he made my life so much better. I will miss him forever. This will hit us very hard, he was young, about to be 4 years next week. I feel guilty for his death, there were some mistakes during his treatment, maybe if those didn’t happen he would still be alive. He deserved many years more. Many more trips to the beach and hugs. I’ll love you forever, Terry. I’ll never forget all the happy moments and love you gave us.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Kristen
My dog who was four years old also passed away yesterday. I feel your pain! Best wishes for a quick recovery.
Callum
My dog i’ve had since i was born has a bad leg, he’s 14 years old and we’ve made the decision to put him down soon because he’s in pain. I can’t imagine life without him since i’ve had him my whole life, i’ve never handled death well and now i’m going to lose my best friend of 14 years.. really bad situation. I’m broken 🙁
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry. Try to enjoy your remaining time with him and make as many memories as you can. You are in my thoughts.
Jack
I lost my best mate of 11 years 2 days ago and I’m. It going to get through this
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Kris
We have found out our American bull dog has cancer and there is nothing the vets can do we are all heartbroken its really hard coming to terms with it all we do is cry and cry we have had him since a puppy we just don’t no what we’re going to do without him
Lynne Skiffiington
I lost my best friend 2 weeks ago, a beautiful 6 lb. Pomeranian named Pompom. She is the only dog I have ever had, and in my 60 years of life and loss (even losing parents), I have NEVER cried so much and so hard. She was 17 1/2 years old and I was her person. She was a miracle dog, because 8 years ago she was attacked by an abused greyhound, and I had to wrangle her out of its mouth. I was told by the surgeon to put her down, but I couldn’t do it. Her hospital bills were $26,500 (which thankfully the homeowner’s insurance of the attack dog covered). I believe that the love we had for each other healed her. I have been “bracing myself” for the inevitability of her life ending, which did absolutely no good… Because I am completely devastated. I was told I should get a second dog a few years ago, but I couldn’t do it to her, as I know a young puppy would have been too much of a stress for her. I would like to thank Judy for posting a one-month update, which was encouraging, and I would like to express my sincere, heart-felt condolences to those who posted and lost your best friend, too. It is so comforting to know I am not alone…
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
Judy
so sorry for your loss, Lynne. As Tam has written, we all reach out through this site because we share the grief and know how important it is to not feel that we are alone. My childhood dog, a Pomeranian X was also called Pompom (Pompy for short). It is 6 weeks today, right about now, that I last held my Snowbell in my arms, as she passed peacefully. I still cry, and that heavy heart is still there, although not quite as bad as before. It’s hard to believe that one day you will feel better, but you will. It’s nature’s way of protecting us, otherwise, how would we survive? Our pets are part of our story and our identity – who we are in the world, so no wonder it is such a heart-wrenching time when we lose them. They truly are part of us. Take care.
Tam
Lynne, I’m so sorry for your loss. I also responded to your reply to something I posted below. Just know my thoughts are with you and I hope you find comfort. You are truly not alone.
Jasmine
My dog was hit by a car and passed yesterday he was only 10 months old.. Now I’m having a really
Hard time with the grief. My vet recommended I talk to someone about it and so here i am. They told me to not blame my self there is nothing I can do about it.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
Jasmine, I’m so sorry for your loss. A similar thing happened to my family dog when I was a young girl. We had just welcomed a Labrador Retriever puppy into our family. Unfortunately, when the garbage truck backed into our driveway our puppy ran behind it. It was hard to hear the news when I got home from school that day. Ultimately, there was nothing I could do to change things. My puppy was gone and we felt guilty, but it was no one’s fault.

My advice to you is to allow yourself to feel this grief and continue to take care of yourself. Seek out a professional’s help if you need someone to speak with in person. You are in my thoughts.

Tam
Hi Jasmine, I’m so sorry for what happened to your sweet puppy. It’s so hard to deal with loss especially something so unexpected. This site has helped me a lot, I think because everyone on here is experiencing the loss of something that was so dear to them. We’ve all reached out for the same reason. Even though we’re all strangers it helps to know others care. It’s been 6 1/2 weeks for me since I lost my sweet girl Tink. I check back on this site every few days. It truly has helped to reach out. I know it sounds so simple, but just try to hold onto the sweet happy memories and it’ll help get you through. I’m sure your pup knew how much you loved him. I wish you healing and good memories.
Morgan
Just had to put my 18 year old terrier down as went downhill badly over weekend I’ve been through this before but never this bad had him for 18 years now suddenly not here really dont know how to cope actually feel like I want to go to sleep and not wake up grief is horrible a grown man that cant stop crying over his dog
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss. Do not feel ashamed of your grief. Take each day one moment at a time. Wake up. Eat breakfast. Get ready for the day. etc. You can do this. You are in my thoughts.
Marie
Morgan I am so sorry for your loss , I know exactly how you are feeling,,, I lost my handsome boy two weeks ago now ,and I’m still lost without him . I’m slowly learning that the loss of our best friends is something that we all deal with differently. My family is moving on ,but I just can’t and won’t until I’m ready. I still cry in the mornings, and when I get home from work in the evenings. My Captain was the first to greet me in the mornings and the last the say good night.
My heart go’s out to you hun, try to stay strong, I know it’s bloody hard , I’m still trying to get myself together. Just know you are not on your own here.
Clark
Morgan, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how you’re feeling. We had to put our dog down earlier today. He had breathing complications and tremors. He was a very special labradoodle. We had him for 13 years. It’s good knowing we had so many memories with him, but moving on is the hardest part. No dog could ever replace Flip.
Maureen
Morgan,
I am sorry for your loss. I know how you are feeling. I struggled with when to put my dog Faith down for a few months. She was 17.5 years old and started showing signs of dementia and had lost about 90% of her eyesight. She had Arthritis and I tried all the prescriptions and the hemp oil. All worked for a while and then didn’t. One day I would think now is the time and the next she was back to her own self again. I finally made the decision when she was in pain. The day I put her down she ate breakfast! I knew it was the right time because I didn’t want her to suffer the pain she had that day. The clinic that I go to was awesome through the euthanasia process. That was Monday and I cry every day. I miss her so much. She was with me through so many stages in my life (when my dad died was the big one). I know she is in a better place.
Sandy
I am deeply sorrowful for your loss. Your in my prayers! My little dog of 14 years is dying, she slept with me every night. Ran to greet me with her tail wagging, my heart is truly broken I can’t imagine life without her. I can’t stop crying.
G Kearns
Just yesterday I took my most beloved Bogey into the vet for a routine nail clipping, and through a reaction, he passed unexpectedly. I will never forget his intent eyes looking into mine, or the way he loved going anywhere in a car with me, even if just a gas station for a car wash. My future days will never be the same without him, and I look for that one day when i know we’ll meet again, never to be separated again. Rest well my little Bubba – Mummy loves you with all of her heart. ❤
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry, you are in my thoughts.
Nilesh Trivedi
I am with same pain on same date, the day 15th Oct 2019 I lost my 5 yrs young dog Crystal. I have few words for him

Where you born? We don’t know. Who are your parents? We don’t know.

But you came to our life and accepted us as your parents. You spread lots of joy and happiness in to our family.

We had different language but we never need any interpretation between us. We had lots of cross language talk.

You understand us better, I remember your cheers on happy moments of family. I feel your sorrowness on tough time of family.

We are sorry if we missed something to take care of you. We are sorry if missed something for you. We are sorry if we couldn’t understand your language.

Forgive us for whatever we couldn’t make for you. Just remember about good time we have together.

You will be in our hearts forever, Love you ‘Crystal’

Judy
Rather than reply to each of you individually, this is a message to all of you who have lost your precious dogs recently. I absolutely understand and share your grief. I posted on this website about a month ago, when I lost my beautiful Snowbell to heart disease. She also had Cushings disease, and was starting to look her age (14) in the last few months. She was happy, until her last two days, which were increasingly uncomfortable. I did all I could for her, and knew her time with me had come to an end. It is now 4 1/2 weeks since I held her – I still miss her so much, so for those of you who have only recently lost your best friend, it is still early days, and the pain will last for a while yet. It is so hard to carry it with you – my chest still feels heavy most of the time, but on most days I can start to feel almost human again. I make sure I still do things in life that are important – seeing family and friends, working, exercising – and try to focus on the positives. Believe it or not, there are positives, but while we can rationalise the situation in our heads, our hearts are always one step behind. Nature has its way of protecting us, and one day the pain will lift, but the memories will remain (thankfully). On the days I start to feel better, I almost panic that I am beginning to forget my Snowbell. I know that will never happen, but I just want to hold on to the immediacy of her being here – I know where she would be at every moment (laying on her bed behind me now, or at my feet, or asking me for a treat). I want her to be here again, but know she never will be, at least in the same way. The day the vet rang to tell me her ashes were there to collect, I got there so fast. I just wanted to bring her home. She is here now, so I know she is safe and in the place where I always knew she would end up. I can talk to her through the tears. I go to yoga classes, as I have done for several years, and at the end of the meditation, the instructor always says “think of one thing in your life you have gratitude for today.” I always gave thanks for having Snowbell, as well as other things. When I went to my first class after losing her, I dreaded this moment, but she is still what I have gratitude for – that hasn’t changed, and that’s a comfort. I find that by focusing on the gratitude rather than sadness, the pain starts to lift. I couldn’t do that early on, but now, it is starting to get just a little bit easier.
I hope you all find a way through your grief – it is a truly horrible experience, but reaching out to others who understand, and looking after yourself is important. The term ‘self-care’ has taken on a new meaning for me. I have always been so focused on looking after others (my mother, then my Snowbell) that my needs came second. Now is a time for me to look after myself, at least for a while, until my heart begins to open to another little life that needs my care and love. One day…
Tam
Judy, thank you for the beautiful words. I lost my sweet Tink also at 14 years. That was on Sept. 7th and my heart is still heavy as you described. I feel like I’m trying to handle things just as you said. Trying (sometimes forcing) myself to still do things, and get out and talk to people. As you do in yoga, each morning and night I look up at the sky and say good morning or goodnight to my sweet girl and say how grateful I am to her. I wrote things down on paper (her silly quirks she had, and there were many) because I never want to forget any of the things she did, and I’m afraid I will. She will always live on in my heart. I wish for all of us, for our pain to lessen, and I know in time it will. They are a part of us. Thank you again.
Shiva Naicker
Thank you so much for sharing your amazing relationship with your baby. It’s really a very challenging time. I lost my baby girl almost 4weeks now as well. And I cannot seem to get through it.
Thank you for giving us all comfort in your lovely message.
Daisy
My wonderful cocker spaniel passed away in February of this year. She had a heart condition and her heart finally failed on her. She was gasping for air and we brought her to the emergency vet. They took her to the back and gave her emergency fluids. When the veterinarian came to see my wife and I, she told us we could put her down or she would die on her own in an hour or two. We chose to put her to sleep and end her suffering. Before the injection was given, they brought her out to us to say goodbye. She looked up at me and gave me one final kiss before saying goodbye. The injection consists of two parts, a sedative and the lethal part. She died as soon as the sedative was put in her system.

This dog was my first dog and was mine before I met my wife. She was joined at the hip with me. To say I had 16 wonderful years with her would be an understatement. I am convinced I wouldn’t be the person I am today without the love and joy she gave me. Every morning I still tell her good morning, and every night I tell her good night. It has been just over 34 weeks since her passing and it doesn’t seem to be getting any easier. Just today, I drove past her favorite park and thought of how much she enjoyed walks and tormenting the ducks. I pulled over and walked the path we once walked all the while thinking of her. I wear a necklace every day with some of her ashes in it. I guess you could say we were at the park together again.

I’m really not typing this for any reason but to express feelings. I guess I’m looking for some kind of healing. I just hope that little Daisy is waiting for me and one day we will get to see each other again.

Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry. Thank you for sharing your story with us and informing our readers more on how the injection process works. You are in my thoughts.
Judy
I know how you are feeling. I held my Snowbell and talked in her ear as the injection was administered. She relaxed completely, then she was gone. I also pass the park where I used to take Snowbell, I even have a video I took of her playing there, when she was in her prime. It has been just over 4 weeks since I lost her, so I guess that’s not long in the scheme of things. I am sorry that you are still feeling so sad after 34 weeks. I am sure the healing that you are searching for will come, but we can’t know when. My heart is still heavy, even though I appear to be ‘back to normal’. It is a new normal now, and I just have to adjust to it. Wishing you all the best.
judith diehl
In grief myself I feel yourpain n I m so sorry for ur loss
sarag amigo, philippines
my min pin jaggy after his week of ordeal finally passed away on Oct.13,2019…he was 13yrs.and 2mos.old with us….his mother Scar was gone to rainbow bridge last July 22 this year..14yrs. and 3mos. with us too.both died of natural passing..Scar due to old age and Jaggy of his illness…there is lacking 2lives in the house now…when scar left i saw a rare fiery rainbow in the clouds when on the way to her burial…and so with jaggy passed too during his burial in our secret garden…a butterfly hovering us and landed on my right shoulder…i was in grief at the same time comforted of what i saw and experienced…these two geriatric toy dogs i have i knew is a gift to me from God…14yrs.ago it is not me but scar choosing me she was 4mos.old that time she run to me and waggling her tiny tail..the moment i saw her i felt like so adorable and the tiniest of them all…then the rest is herstory.they are our guardian,protector,companion and very affectionate and loving mini pinscher to me and my family…she gave me so many puppies for 8yrs. of her life then on 2014 she reached her menopausal ..but they were always be my fur friend forever along with his eldest son Jaggy..now they were together in the rainbow bridge near paradise…i wont not say farewell nor goodbye just a good nite sleep and then when time comes in GOd’s will we will meet again in afterlife..for the meantime your last puppy named Chloe who is now 7yrs. old in my care i tripled my affection to her…we alone now in the house we missed you two so dearly…MamaScar and Jaggy……so long…never forgotten and forever in our hearts..
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Tammy
I had to have my heart and soul, Tina, a min pin chihuahua put down on Oct 18,2019 due to something very acute that she wasnt able to come back from. It was a very hard decision but she was suffering. She left like a whisper which wasnt like her at all. She was fierce. She loved me and her family. She loved life. She was the best girl. She is missed so much. My house feels hollow and i feel like i have been gutted. I have yet to receive her cremains back from the vet. Cant wait to have her back.I know everybody on here understands the absolute grief that we are all feeling. It is so hard. Ignore people who cannot be sympathetic. Those people were not blessed with the kind of friendships we had with our beloved pets. They truly will be forever in our hearts. Sincerely we are partners in pain.
Thomas Hellec-Ryan
We said goodbye to our sweet Cosette on Friday evening. She was a French bulldog, and we shared an incredible life together for twelve & 1/2 years. She was suffering from liver failure, and Friday morning I knew it was time. Just feeling so devastated, so gutted by the void of her presence. But I am trying to stay in gratitude for all those wonderful years. That’s the deal, isn’t it, with love, especially with these wise and funny souls with such brief lifespans. Coming home to the empty, quiet flat is the worst, as is waking up and remembering all over again. Cosette took such good care of us. I wish all who are posting and all who are grieving the gradual recovery from the pain and the loss, until we can embrace all the memories with a smile. And until we are ready to open our hearts and our homes once again. Take care, everyone.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m sorry for your loss.
Hayley
My dog Missy passed away in her bed on October 10th, 2019, at 5:10 AM. I have been sick since. She was my childhood friend; I’ve had her for 13 years. I got her at an animal shelter in 2006. I was 4 then and now I’m nearly 18. My crying has been on and off; all I can think about is all the times we had together and how that will never happen again. I have another dog at home with me, but it’s not like her. She was my first dog. My heart is broken… I know she is not suffering anymore, but it does not make it hurt any less that I won’t hear her barks or see her tail wag. I miss her so much.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Marcia zeimys
I lost my beatiful dog on tuesday oct 15th 2019 he would of been 14 march 8th he went in for a tooth out and cleaned vet said he would ring me got the call thinking time to get my baby home and feed him some lovely chicken vets were worried about his stomack he was asleep waiting to have his tooth out and cleaned could they do an xray i agreed they rung me back were i got the news his stomack it wasnt a mass it was cancer i feel to peaces feeling like id had my heart ripped out i had the option they would wake him and i could bring him home but i was only looking at weeks then id have to put him down so i chose the option to not have him woke up im feel like ive had my heart ripped out so lost without him every nite he would lay nexted to me on the seetee with his blankets of course im in peaces loved that dog with all my heart
Marie
My handsome boy passed away on the 08/10/2019 , two days ago. I’m still in shock, deeply saddened by all these emotions in me. Can’t stop crying,waves of sadness just take over . Not having him around is the hardest part . The mornings are the worst, he was my alarm clock, waking me up for our morning rich rule breakfast and coffee out on the patio…My home is so empty now he’s gone. Find myself falling apart crying over silly things that reminds me of my boy…. My daughter tells me to stops crying and that he’s in a better place now.
This is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with., I’ve had family members pass away before but nothing like this. My 6 year old boy Captain was my best friend , we were truely sole mates ….RIP my handsome boy.
When when will this heart ache go away
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry Marie. Grief is different for everyone and it’s ok for you to cry. Allow yourself to mourn your loss and focus on taking care of yourself and family during this difficult time. You are in my thoughts.
Marie
Thank you so for your kind words and advice Kimberly, it’s now day three without my boy and doesn’t seem to be getting any easier. My family has gone back to their lives and I’m on my own. The house seems so empty and quite today. I tried going out of the house to run some errands and catch up with day to day stuff . Find myself feeling lost at home, snuggling up on the lounge with Captains blanket and crying,…. Damit this is so hard , I really don’t know how to cope without my best friend.
Valeria
so sorry Marie for your loss. My loving Bailey was put to rest at 8:45am on October 4th.I have the same feelings as you and I hope we both can have our heartaches ease with time. God bless you
Marie
Thank you for your kind words Valeria , I’m so sorry for your loss of your loving Bailey, I’m hoping that we can both heal in time with our loss of our best friends. Time is only what we have to heal our hearts.
I received my Captain’s ashes this morning, cried and cried, I can’t believe it’s been a week since he’s been gone., the longest week ever. I feel sick to my stomach every day. I keep asking myself why did my handsome boy get cancer, … It’s a cruel world sometimes, how some people just don’t deserve such pain and heartache in their life. I ask myself why this has happened to Captain, I believe I’m a good person and always strive to be better. I work in aged care and look after the elderly. Love my job , but finding hard to focus at times.
I feel for you Valeria and everyone that has posted hear.
My thoughts are with you all
Julie Truman
I’m so sorry for your loss I lost my boy on Monday and feel broken my heart hurts so much I dont know how to get through this he was my boy my first dog and went through everything with me I know how you are all feeling xx
HELEN GORMAN
My beloved Daisy passed away on Tuesday, my world has fell apart & I have never felt pain like this. We had her almost 13 years & she died in our arms – I thought she had a cold, but her breathing deteriorated that night
Julie Truman
So so sorry x
Deepti
It is going to take time is what I am told. I lost mine on 6th Oct, 19 and life isn’t the same again since that day.
Jennifer Tanner-Worth
My little whippet Fly who was 11 but looked and acted like a puppy had a massive seizure on 12th October 2019 from which she never recovered and I had to make the awful decision to let her go. I haven’t stopped crying since, the physical pain in my head is unbearable and I honestly can’t see how I will ever get over this! I know I have to find strength from somewhere because my other dog who has final stage lymphoma has only a week or so left before I am going to be returning to the vets again! I am honestly grief stricken. We were the three musketeers, pretty much joined at the hip, and I don’t know how to even function.
Run free at the bridge my darling girl. Ghillie will join you soon so you don’t need to be afraid or lonely.
Judy
That’s truly awful, Jennifer. Losing them so close together is cruel. Make sure you reach out to others to support you. Take care.
Shelly
My wonderful, quirky dog Lola died on September 6. She was 11 and in great shape, we walked 2 hours every day. We thought she had pancreatitis but it turned out to be cancer. She went in to have the tumor removed but we found iut it had spread. I had to make one of the hardest decisions of my life. I have been devastated. Like others here, she was my best friend, my support. She made me laugh when I was sad and she was always there. She even tried to play the morning of her surgery. I miss her so much, my house seems alien to me. It does not feel like home anymore. She was my light.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry Shelly.
Kay
Shelly, your story is my story. My beautiful sweet Coco was diagnosed with pancreatitis on June 19. She was back at the vet’s office on July 16 because she’d refused to eat on July 15. Turned out she had cancer and, like Lola, it had spread. You are right; it’s one of the hardest decisions in life to make. My heart goes out to you along with my tears. I mourn your loss. I share your grief. I miss my little girl who looked at me as though everything I said was interesting and important and who made me smile each and every day. Bless you for being a good mom to a good dog.
Valeria
This hurts so much.This pain I say good morning to comes in waves for my 13 year old Bailey who was put to rest on October 4th. His heart was stopped at 8:45 that morning. I cant describe how I feel because it comes in waves.I’m angry because no one else is crying I’m sad because maybe i could have caught his cancer earlier. I feel guilty because he continued to try and please me even when he could not stand or see anymore.
I have 2 other dogs and we are in pain.
Kimberly Alt (Admin)
I’m so sorry Valeria. What you are experiencing is completely normal. Everyone grieves differently and perhaps others are crying when you aren’t around. Allow yourself time to just feel your emotions. Cry or scream if it helps. It sounds like Bailey was the most amazing dog you could ask for and I’m sure both of you were lucky to have one another. Please know you are in my thoughts.
Tam
Valeria, I’m so very sorry for your loss and your pain. I truly understand as I’m still dealing with my own. I feel like it helps to get on here and help support each other, because we all found this site for a reason, we were searching for some comfort from others who completely understand. We love them so much and it’s so hard to deal with. I wish you healing and love and hope that soon you’ll be able to just remember the good times and that they will comfort you and you’ll be able to smile when thinking of your Bailey. We’re all in this together.
Valeria
Thank you so much Tam.In time I hope our tears turn to smiles when we think of our beloved dogs. Bless you and thank you